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Hitting Bottom - When does someone reach it?
sadeyes
cryin |
Hitting Bottom - When does someone reach it?
Can anyone help me understand how far an addict
must go to hit rock bottom and care enough to get help? |
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| Rancid1 |
Re: Hitting Bottom - When does someone reach it?
It's different for everyone.
For me, I had to loose something that I thought I would never
loose. My own sanity. Insanity scared me so much that I wanted
to die, and I went crying to someone and begged them to make the
voices in my head go away.
It's different for everyone, but most people have to loose
something that they never thought they would loose. |
Savedin
illinois |
Re: Hitting Bottom - When does someone reach it?
Rock bottom is definitely different for everyone.
One way to look at it is...think about what you think that
persons bottom would be, jail, losing friends and family, losing
job, homelessness, and imagine 10 times worse than that. That's
usually about where rock bottom resides.
And that's almost ALWAYS where meth takes you.
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| TnSkye |
Re: Hitting Bottom - When does someone reach it?
My husband has lost his family, homes, jobs,
EVERYTHING-not once, but TWICE in the last 11 years and still
hasn't found his bottom.
Before I left him, he told me over and over he could quit on his
own, he developed plans, etc, but never followed through.
Now that I've left him, I really don't expect him to ever stop.
He'll die using like his daddy did.
There is no predicting anyone's bottom.You can't assume that you
can do or say anything to speed up the process. |
| Penel0pe |
Re: Hitting Bottom - When does someone reach it?
I think it's different for everyone.
I stopped using when I finally opened my eyes and honestly
admitted to myself that ADDICTION was my problem - not the
world, not the "System," not my husband.... when I finally
surrendered to the fact that, if I was ever going to have a good
life, I was going to have to give up the dope. I lost a LOT
along the way. |
Naiev
Newlywed |
Re: Hitting Bottom - When does someone reach it?
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how far an addict must go to hit rock bottom
Unfortunately, sometimes death is the rock bottom.
There are no easy answers, and everyone else is right, it's
different for everyone.
Some lose very little, some lose it all, including their life.
It's hard to tell where your addict will fall in between those
lines.
You can't sit around and wait and pray and hope that the bottom
will come before death, that's only YOU wasting away. Trust me,
I know, I was there. Waiting, praying, pleaing, getting high
with him, losing myself to bring him back. It doesn't work. I
dove into the depths of hell with him thinking I could pull him
out. You can't, no matter what you do, you can't.
I don't mean to sound harsh, I just want you to realize there's
no easy answers to this. YOU have to take care of YOU. |
nine
years
clean |
Re: Hitting Bottom - When does someone reach it?
Hi Sadeyes:
Here's an excerpt from my story. Like snowflakes, everyone is
different. There is no way to predict what it will take for
someone to hit bottom.
Quote:
At the end of 13 years, I was using 1/16th a day, I was
85 lbs., I had lost all of my back teeth, top and bottom, my
house was in foreclosure, my cars were being repossessed,
and I actually sold one for a song just to buy more dope, my
husband was gone (still out there using to this day), my son
had graduated high school and moved away to college, my
step-son had gone to live with his bio mother, I was facing
11 felony counts against me, I had lost all self-respect,
any sense of self-preservation, and all hope.
(I called a rehab center and was told my insurance didn't cover
inpatient care)
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I cried into the phone for this woman to please help me.
I told her that it was hard enough just to get to the point
where I was asking, even begging, for help, and then to be
turned away. I hung up the phone and felt more desperate
than I have ever felt in my life. I was standing at a
precipice, and I felt certain that I was going to fall, and
that when I did, I was going to die.
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My choices were two: go out and buy the BIGGEST bag of
dope I could find and do it all at once and end the madness
once and for all. Or, turn in the opposite direction and run
as fast as I could and never look back. That is what I did.
That was my bottom, nearly ten years ago. I went to prison for a
year when I was about 6 months clean. So I hit my bottom BEFORE
I got locked up, but AFTER I had lost anything and everything
that was dear to me. |
gotta
have
a plan
1 |
Re: Hitting Bottom - When does someone reach it?
whoa! just realized hitting rock bottom is a good
thing.some people never get to that point and have an oppotunity
to clean up and recover and live.it's a life or death
situation.i agree it's different things for different people and
that it's all about losing what you value most in life.i have
been very fortunate to not loose a thing and that makes me more
vulnerable.i better watch it!i'm very very very glad i found
this place.thanks guys!!! |
| undone |
Re: Hitting Bottom - When does someone reach it?
that's how i feel right now . . . lately
think i pushed myself too far - now i've lost it - |
forget
suzette |
Re: Hitting Bottom - When does someone reach it?
22 years of observation....
...did'nt prevent me from loosing EVERYTHING.
I'd binge, hit the first floor of bottom...
....quit, acknowledge every time I use, it damn near destroys
everything around me, I understood the universe was not with me,
when I stepped on to that road....
...I understood, my body and mind was weakening with each
encounter.
I'd binge...
.....analyze the damage.
quit
binge again...
.......comunicate DEEPLY, and honestly within myself, until I
could completely understand, meth would inflict the most severe
punishments known, if I stayed with her.
....when I did meth, meth was doing me.
we would both run out sooner or later.
....one day there would be no meth for me, and no me for meth.
but you know...
...I JUST was'nt happy until I lost EVERYTHING.
I showed up at my parents house with one suitcase, and my tired,
but intact soul.
...I'm 41 years old.
Suzette walked off and just left the most beloved things in my
life.
she did'nt care about the things suzie cared about, and was in
the drivers seat, making all the wrong decisions
that will haunt me and cause me pain forever.
....not only did suzette "win" the power struggle of my
identity, she kept more of it than she had before.
the next time.
....I'll die.
even if I'm alive, you will not be able to see me in my eyes.
you'd see where something used to live.
.....like an overgrown garden, someone loved once, died,
and the new tennant never took care of.
so in closing, I've hit about 5 bottoms.
....each more devistating spiritually, physically, and
financaily than the last.
.....each one picked apart and looked at closely in attempts to
REALLY UNDERSTAND where this road was taking me, and trying to
make it "set" with my core, and prevent it from owning me...
.....it owns me. It's pandoras box.
once opened, you can never quite get it shut again.
I look at it now, and I can't belive I did'nt regain control of
my self, and what I love, and what means most to me.
.....NOTHING mattered as long as I had THE SPEED.
I knew THE SPEED was the most important thing in the world as
losses accumulated.
....gotta get more,
uhm... I can see a little of...hurry up!
.... make it go away, don't look under the matrix, at all
costs...
...do not look at what you've done suzie, there's nothing left
for you, except the need for speed.
...the drugs are all you have left.
that's what you wanted.
......you wanted meth, you got meth.
plenty of meth, but no one, including me can EVER
pick up on the fine print.... the deal is....
You get meth......
......meth gets you.
a deal with the devil, costs you.
"it might come as quite a shock, you can't REALLY own that rock,
it's just a waste of time" -
jimmy buffett |
See also:
Quitting Crystal Meth / Methamphetamine
Hit rock bottom - begged me for treatment
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